Friday, December 10th, 2010 at
12:16 am
My mother in law and i had a little argument over this issue this weekend… i was wondering if you all agree with her…because everyone i ask seems to!
So here’s the issue: I had the family over this sunday and my four year old daughter Mariella wanted to show off her back to school clothes for her grandparents, aunts, uncles etc. So Mia is parading around in a few of her new outfits and everyone told her how pretty and grown up she looked…Later after she had gone off to play with the other kids. My mother in law started into me about what a waste of money it is to buy all these new clothes for the girls all the time ( i also have three year old twins). And yes, i do buy them a lot. They have way more clothing than they need, and i do stock up fully for each one of them at every season, but so what? If we can afford it, what is the problem? she says it will spoil them but they don’t care about the clothes. Mia loves her new clothes because i told her how pretty she looks. she likes the attention, you know? but if i hadn’t bought her anything she wouldnt have cared either. And the little girls REALLY don’t care about it. I just like to buy lots of cute clothing for my girls, it’s for me more than it is for them. So i don’t see a problem.
Also, my mother in law and one of my sister in laws began about how since the girls can all fit into the same size (Mariella was a preemie so she’s small and wears the same size as her Lyle and Alanna) I should just buy one of things and let them share. I think that’s completely ridiculous. Why should my girls to have to share their clothes when they don;t need to? That would be silly. There is nothing wrong with sharing, and i do intermix their closets from time to time, but why shouldnt they have their onw things.
I know that this isn’t really a big deal, but it just bothered me because i felt l ike I was being attacked for spoiling and overindulging my children and I just don’t see it that way. My mother in law feels very strongly that I spoil my kids. Whenever they act up she likes to point out that if I indulged them less they’d behave. but they’re good little kids! I don’t give them just anything they want. but the clothes are just my thing. My closet is enormous and overstuffed, why shouldn’t my daughters’ be?
My mother in law is very good to her grandkids and she does buy them lots of things, and get pretty extravagent(she rented a pony for my girls second birthday!) She just thinks expensive clothes are a waste for little kids. which i understand but i don’t see why she makes it such an issue…
and yes we have a college fund for each kid and retirement…
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