Some of these women even go as far as to bring these photos into their place of work and set them up on their desks in picture frames. Sometimes the baby doesn’t look dead, but like it’s just sleeping. When someone approaches their desk for something, looks at the pic, and asks the mother, "Is that your son? He’s so cute", the mother replies, "Yes, he was a stillborn." How awkward is that? Not only do you bring a dark cloud over the conversation, but you also clue the inquisitive person in on the fact that there’s a picture of a dead baby on your desk. This puts the person in a very uncomfortable position in which they feel obligated to empathize with the mother by throwing out some obligatory statement like, "I know how you feel as I lost my mother recently" or the even a more jittery, knee-jerk response of "My dog died last year". Then the bereaved mother gets all offended and posts about the "insensitive person" on their Facebook page, talking about how people who have never experienced infant loss should just keep their mouths shut and that it’s better for them just not to say anything at all.

WTF? Are you a total effing idiot? It’s human nature to try to comfort someone whom has experienced a loss of any kind and not everyone knows how to cope with other people’s losses. You’ve had time to cope with your loss with your support group partners, but not everyone else has. If you want to avoid the situation, stop introducing it to other people. They most likely would be much better off without you pushing your woes onto them as part of your selfish grieving process. Maybe you need to take a psychology class and understand the human condition before you start condemning people for their "unwarranted reactions" to your plight.

I’ve started calling these infant loss support groups "dead baby cults". That’s almost what it is.. a cult. You see a Facebook friend post something on their status about baby loss accompanied by a bunch of her female friends posting comments. When you click on their profiles and view their photos, you’re bound to be greeted by multitudes of pics of dead babies. It’s almost as sickening as it is predictable.

So who grieves like that? Isn’t there a better way that doesn’t involve bring other people into the mix? Do you have to put your grief out there on your sleeve for everyone else to experience, as well? I don’t want to sound insensitive, but you all have a lesson to learn in grieving.
"So, these parents of stillborn children should not have photographs of their children?"

When did I say that? What I am saying is to keep the crap to yourself. It’s a dead, decomposing baby corpse and you’re gonna display it at work? Come on, people.

"I dont believe there is such a thing as SELFISH GRIEVING."

There is. It’s when you put the importance of your personal grieving process before the interests of others by essentially getting them involved against their will. Talking about how your baby died is one thing, but to shove dead baby pics in their faces is just wrong.

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We were emailing back and forth about cloth diapering and I emailed that one of the reasons I wanted to switch to cloth is because I heard it’s better for babies skin, less rashes, "although we’ve been pretty lucky in this department thus far". She emails me back. "My son hasn’t had a diaper rash at all. So happy! But when he was a few weeks old his butt got red and looked almost like chapping. So I put some Burts Bees Baby Ointment on it and it cleared up."

Well…. doesn’t that sound like a diaper rash to you? And what’s the point of her always having to brag about stupid stuff like that. I mean, I was just trying to connect but she seems kind of competitive. What do you think?

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Does anyone else find it weird that Johnny can fit into most 9 months shirts/onesies, but 9 months pants are too big/long for him… But 9 month one piece outfits are too small for him?

I know that different brands are sized differently… But I tried all "Carter’s" brand clothing to just see how the pants/shirts/outfits fit and they were all like I mentioned before.

Isn’t that strange?

I guess he’s just got a tiny waist with short legs and a long torso, LOL
Amelia, if you can’t answer the question, please don’t leave an answer at all.

And don’t EVER use the word "hell" and my son’s name in the same sentence again.

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I am trying to get my 9mo. old nephew into modeling. His mother loves the idea but we dont know how to go about it. We live in Los Angeles and I’ve called tons of legitimate agencies and the age range is 2+ yrs. What agencies should I look at now?

*Please only comment w/ serious responses…dont need to hear the "using the baby to make money speech"….

Thanks in advance
O lord…it’s too bad we r so evil…that all the money is going into a trust for him!!! LMFAO!!! Some of you have nothing to do but put people down….if you didnt like the question..y respond???..LAME!!! Good laughs!!!

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my height is about 5’7" and body is ‘normal/slim’ (if that helps)

include links =D

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