My son will be one month old on Wednesday. I am 32 and a first time parent.
Does developing a routine really work? My baby sleeps well during the day but I dread nighttime. He has been sleeping with my husband and I am this is totally against what I believe in. I just don’t agree with co-sleeping and feel it is unsafe. Our bedroom is at the back of the house and his bedroom is toward the front of the house, so letting him sleep in his room isn’t an option at this point. We have a sound monitor but I just don’t feel it’s right to leave him alone.
He slept in his pack and play which was in our room, the day after we came home from the hospital, but he didn’t like it at all. It was at the foot of our bed and I believe there was a draft coming from the window. We have fairly large bedroom furniture so there isn’t anywhere else we could move the pack and play. I don’t know what else to do. He tosses and turns and flips and flops all night. He sleeps just fine if he’s in your arms, but often squirms and cries after 5-10 minutes of putting him down. We have tried swaddling him in a blanket and in an actual swaddler but he cries because I don’t think he likes his arms being restrained. How can I help him get on track to sleep more during the night? Trying to keep him awake just doesn’t seem to be working.
Why does my son always seem hungry? He is constantly putting his fingers in his mouth and gnawing on his fist. He acts like he is starving at all times. I talked to the doctor about this when he was two weeks old and he said I could increase to 3 oz. or 4 oz. every 3-4 hours, but when I tried to feed him more than 2 oz. he wouldn’t take it. Now that he’s older I have increased it to 3 oz. which he is taking just fine, but he occasionally spits up (sometimes it’s kind of thick and sometimes it looks just like milk) even after being burped … AND OFTEN TMES HE IS STILL GNAWING ON HIS FISTS WELL BEFORE IT’S TIME TO EAT. He was having some gas issues so the doctor changed his milk to Similac Sensitive and prescribed some liquid Zantac. The gas issues seem to be gone but I am concerned about the spitting up. I’m often afraid to lay him down even after burping … and sometimes he doesn’t burp at all or takes forever for him to burp.
He weighs a little over 7 lbs. now but still can’t fit most newborn size clothing. Why? He was only 5 lbs. 7 oz. when he was born. I found out I have a bicornuate uterus after he was born, which explained the IUGR issues I was having while pregnant. Preemie clothes are too short and snug on him and most newborn clothes are a little to wide or long.
How can I cope with the elders in my family (including my mother inlaw) throwing in their two cents or old wives tales? It is driving me crazy. Don’t do this. Do that. People just assume you have no common sense. I got into an argument with my mom the other day because she said I shouldn’t let him look over his head … that will cause his eyes to cross. My husband had a bottle that was room temperature (although we usually warm it in the bottle warmer) and she insisted we shouldn’t feed it to him at room temperature. We were at her house and she doesn’t have a warmer. Then she went on to tell me the straps in the carseat were too tight and were going to choke him.
My mother inlaw says I shouldn’t let anyone on their period hold him. That’s crazy. What am I supposed to do, ask the person if they’re bleeding? She makes comments that we’re not feeding him enough even though he eats all day long. She asked who was going to keep our baby when I return to work. I told her my husband’s friend’s mother (who is hispanic) may be keeping him. I told her my only concern was that she may not speak fluent English, and that I was going to meet her first to confirm whether or not she would be a good fit. Her comment was, "Well, don’t you take him there if she doesn’t speak English. Don’t just take him ANYWHERE!!!" I have also been dealing with remarks from other family members.
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