I find out in Oct.,but I am so eager to buy clothes now!I was looking today for the first time at Walmart and finding outfits that would be for a girl OR a boy were hard to come by,they were all one or the other.I was thinking it would be easy to just find some yellow cute stuff haha.I’d love to hear your stories.:)




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My eight month old is dependent on me rocking him to sleep, but when I try to move him to his crib he wakes up and starts screaming. I’ve tried to leave him and let him cry, but after about 45 minutes I gave in. He can stand now so he just stands in there and cries. Any suggestions? I’d love for him to know that his bed is for sleeping – I want to be done rocking!




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How to deal with a step childs parent ! Help !?




Am I being unreasonable but I feel that my partners step son ( we are not married but live together with my young daughter and one on the way) is so spoilt and feel that my daugther and our forth coming child together are being neglected.

When I met my other half my daugther (from a previous) was 7 months old. I worked extremly hard juggeling a business and raising a daughter from a failed relationship. I met D (the other half) through work. After a year together we realised that we were very much in love so I decided to move 200 miles away from my freinds and family to be with him. He had allways told me that he could never move because of his son. He had his son J every other weekend and twice every week. I know that the split from his wife left him very hurt and he loves the the time with his son even though I think his son can be very demanding.

Anyway, I rented out my house, moved up here with my daughter, we then bought a bigger house together etc and I thought I was fine. Money can be tight but I have a very good job which is well paid, (we do work for the same company now but only see each other for aprox 40 mins a day and thats generally at lunch) Recently I became pregnant and weighed up the thought of my now 2.5 year daughter having a sibling at home full time and for life. Money will be a little tight say to speak for the first three years but we will be okay. My work has been very accomdating and allowing me to work 2 days from home (phew!) which allows costs to go down.

Anyway, I have shown him the figures of what we can and cant spend. I have never included his commission every month in these figures etc but things are a tight. He is – or at least should be aware of this by now. I dont spend any money on myself apart from a trim at the hair dressers every 6 – 8 weeks. To enable me to start working from home I have asked him for over 5 months to sort out the internet at the house because its in his name and nothing has been done. I then ended up sorting out the phone line myself and now the internet because I start these two days a week from home on 1st June. Its for the good of him and his son anyway for me to work at home because it reduces his sons after school club costs on the two days a week that we have. It also reduces my daughters as well. Anyway, he seems content on spending more money on further ice skating lessons for his sone which are £42.50 a go. Hes bought him a pair of ice skates as well. Not to mention the £240.00 a month maintenance he pays his ex wife per month. Theres the constant trips to Tesco buying him crap which apparently has come out of his birthday money.I hardly buy anything for my daughter apart from the necessary stuff like clothes etc which are required. I dont receice any money from her father. I have just decorated her room because she had a really ugly room and I am on at him to tell his son about our forth coming arrival. But still he does not say anything. I need to start decorating his sons room and the babys room.

I get frustrated because on the weekends we dont have his son we do work on the house, we never do anything with my daughter. He will say – do something – but I am on the impression that we are supposed to be a family and we do things together. Not just him and the son and then me and my daughter off doing our own things. However when his son comes over he goes off to clubs on Saturday mornings and then off on Sundays with his Dad for skating. We never do anything for my daughter. I am worried that both I, my daughter ( who calls him daddy) and the new born are pushed aside to make way for his son which is not fair on his son or on us.

I find that his son can be very rude, and back chats which I find rude as well. I have mentioned it a few times but recently I have started to hate the child. Which is not his fault I understand. Am I being unreasonable to expect my other half to treat everyone as equal. Its not mine, my daughters or our new arrivals fault that he does not see his son every day. I understand that it must be difficault and alone time with your son is required but not to the extent where others feel left out. The constant spending of money of lessons for ice skating not to mention the £500.00 just spent on season tickets to ice hockey matches this year. It all just seems a bit stupid at the moment.

Hes just bought a new set of leathers for his bike – then he was looking at new helmets. I bought my daughter her first "adult" bed for £40.00 the other day from ebay. Hardly pushing the boat out but I thought it best to get her out of the cot bed so that she did not feel that she was being pushed out by the new baby when it comes. I also bought a plastic chairs and table for outside for everyone to sit on from ebay. I try and do what is for the good of the family but now start to question if I am going mad, being perhaps selfish ? Or is it that I need to sit down and tell him how I feel about his behav




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This cat is ridiculous. He is always demanding love, he never lets me sit alone in a room with the door closed because he will meow and howl and just bug everyone else to where they have enough and let him in the room. Then he claws up my leg up and demand to be in my lap. This cat is a non-stop lover and don’t get me wrong I love having my cat love me but I am only one person I have a life I need to do other things and not have him in my lap or laying on what I am working on while I try and work on things. I got him when he was a baby for my birthday I cant remember what year but I believe he is between the ages of 8 and 10 and ever since we moved here about 4 years ago this cat has been attached to my hip even before then he was bad but not this bad. I read everything online and I thought it would be that he needed a friend which we got him but the cat sprays on everything when a new cat comes near or a new anything. We recently got a new min pin which is a buddy for him but the cat pees on everything with a clean cat box and all. I swear the cat was meowing and running to his cat box so I cleaned it dumped it even and washed it put new litter in and not even five mins later that cat came in my room and peed on a pile of dirty clothes in my room. I have a feeling he might have a vet problem but I have a friend whose cat does the same thing and all the vet could tell them was that it was stress. Which in some way I beliebe because he pees on the stuff when I am gone babysitting or at a friends for a couple days, but still when I get back he does the same thing and I don’t abuse this cat I give him all the love he could ever want and more so I have no idea why he is like this. Is it that I give him to much love? I don’t know how much more my family or I can take of this needy-ness. Is there any other way than just another cat in the house to make him happy and less needy?
Oh yes I forgot to add he is neutered. He got his manly hood taken away when he was younger.




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My county fair has a category for these blankets that, after the fair’s over, they are donated to a program that helps kids who’ve been traumatized. I think it’s a great idea, and I’d love to make one! My fair book says to make them crib/baby sized…. I need to know what size that is. Thank you!




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My daughter is drawn to electrical cords. And if we’re not careful she’d love to just shove the thing in her mouth and chew. I have baby gates, and doors shut so that eliminates all cords except one. And it’s a lamp so it’s not like I can just unplug it because then we’d be in the dark. :) Other than constantly pulling her away from it, is there anything I can do to hide the cord or something? What do you do with cords?




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The long and short of it is that several months back my husband and I nearly divorced after the birth of our first child. We had been having problems for some time and had not taken steps to fix our marriage; so the birth of our son put a lot of strain on our relationship. (Note: we both love our son dearly; I am only referring to how we felt about one another)
Anyway, things reached a boiling point one night and the next day my husband said he was finished and filed for a divorce while I was away for the night on business.
Sadly, my husband used my 4 month old at the time as a pawn. Due to SC law saying that ownership in 9/10ths posession, he took my child and went to my in-laws; refusing to let me see him until our court date. The police could do nothing for me no matter how many times I called them b/c we had not yet been to court to establish custody and he was the father.
I was devastated. But, what gets me the most was that all of my in-laws, with the exception of my father in-law, got deeply involved in my marriage AND with my child. My sister in-law would call me daily to yell at me and my mother-in-law and her mother hid my child from me. I did not know where my baby was for days until the cops told her she had to tell me. When I finally did track him down, I cornered her and called the police. Again, since my husband left our child in her "care" I could not legally make her give him to me. She said if she gave me MY child that she’d never see him again. I HATED her and cried every night for three weeks, sleeping with my childs clothes.
Then in court my husbands ENTIRE family showed up. Parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles and even his brothers girl friend. I was mortified still at the court granting joint custody with the stunts that my husband and his family had pulled.
Months later my husand and I finally stopped fighting and started working out our marriage with counseling. We are great now but trust will take a very long time. Much longer than love.
My problem is that my husband is SUPER close with his family. My mother-in-law watches my child while we both work and I have to drop him off to her everyday. I want to put him in daycare at this point. She pretends nothing happened but can’t hide the fake smile. My husband goes over there once a week or more for family gatherings and I go with him b/c it’s important to him for us to all be a family but in reality I hate everyone. His brother and his gf avoid me totally; his mother, sister, her fiancee and his nanny gossip about me like I can’t hear them in the other room and I don’t like any of them to touch my child while I am there.
I am trying desperately hard to put on a good front but I can’t even look them in the eyes and I have no desire to even speak to any of them. All I see when I look at my mother-in-law is her running away from me in a parking lot with my child like a crazy person.
My husband has stood up for me "supposedly" by telling them that I am his wife so they had to be nice, but that has only made everything akward b/c we have to pretend we like one another now.
I have spoken with his brother about this and he still avoids me. I have not yet spoken with the other members of his family b/c I do not think that the conversation would go well.
It was none of their business to EVER get involved with my marriage and my child. How do I truly forgive these people when I despise them underneath it all?
I’ve seen a rude comment or two on raising my own child and working and I have to say that I am a little shocked. I guess I thought with our economy veering towards depression while a gallon of milk rises to a gallon, that most households required two incomes at this point. But, to clarify for the nasties out there: I don’t use anyone as a sitter while I go out and have fun all day. I actually pay my mother in law the same amount that I would pay a daycare b/c I feel that it’s better for my child to have that undivided attention. Unfortunately, some women have to work b/c we did not marry for money. Others work b/c they enjoy it. That doesn’t make anyone a bad mother! I would give my right arm to stay home with my son all day and never have to take a business trip or watch my son cry as I leave him daily; believe me! It eats at me- much like it does many other mothers who need to work to help provide. It’s not just a man’s responsibility to take care of the bills.




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toddler size plus clothing???




help! My neice is overweight, and needs special made clothing. I have googled and yahooed like crazy! I am looking for a store that sells plus sized, or husky sized clothing that we do not have to hem the pants. I am looking for stores online or to shop at physically. any ideas???
okay, for all these people that cannot read, I did not ask how to help her lose weight. yes, she is overweight, but I am not theone raising her, so I do not see what she eats or does. I have 3 kids of my own. and who the hell made you guys a judge over a three year old? Focus on your own bad habits, and let my family deal with theirs. Excuse me for asking a question for help about clothing, I didn’t know there were so many perfect people out there!
if you want to judge obese toddlers and their parents, go to the maury show- they’s love to hear from ya.




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I was looking at travel systems on www.burlingtoncoatfactory.com and fell in love with the Eddie Bauer Adventurer Travel System – Stonewood
Style: 5391827A and the Evenflo Euro-Trek Travel System. They are both the same price. I admit I am a brand name junkie and I like the best of the top lines but I don’t want to pay for just a name either. I want something that is going to last for my little princess! I prefer answers from experienced buyers, mothers, or if you know someone kind of thing. Don’t answer if you have no clue or "whatever you like best". Need real answers please! (I don’t want that to sound rude either it’s just that there are some people who have nothing better to do then make false or negative responses)




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Something gentle and safe, yet cleans really well!
Is there anything like wet-wipes I could use? I’d love to just set a container in the nursery and just pull out a wetwipe when I need to clean off the plastic part of bassinet, or crib, a plastic toy, etc…




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