they live in poverty? I have seen this first hand single black mothers with little or no income feeling their kids have to have designer clothes and shoes. I’m sure other races may feel the same. But if you can’t afford it why act as if you can. For example, you live in government housing or have no transportation but your baby has on designer clothing. Where did this come from within the black community? I am a black mother and feel what happened to have the priorities of your child having a good education, good surroundings, good role models, expanding their horizons to different things, instead of designer labels.
I’m not saying my children don’t wear designer clothes and shoes but I don’t make it a focal point of their wardobe. However, I make sure my child have the necessities first before I stretch my wallet trying to make sure they have a designer label.
Also, ALL SINGLE BLACK MOTHERS do not do THIS. I am a middle class woman but I am friends with women who are considered low class. I am speaking ONLY from MY EXPERIENCE AND WHAT I HAVE SEEN.




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Which name sounds better?? Middle name?

So, it’s not for a baby, it’s for a character I’m creating in a story. But yeah, it’s a name. Help me out?? :D

Jake Harris
or
Jake Harrods?

His full name is Jacob, but he’ll go by Jake. He’s gonna be kind of like a better looking cross between Joe Jonas and Adam Lambert. Black hair, piercing blue eyes, rockstar-in-designer-clothing kind of look. Somewhat of a temper.

And what should the middle name be? Don’t say Micheal, please.




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Do you agree with the idea of designer babies?

The colloquial term "designer baby" refers to a baby whose genetic makeup has been artificially selected by genetic engineering combined with in vitro fertilisation to ensure the presence or absence of particular genes or characteristics. The term is derived by comparison with "designer clothing". It implies the ultimate commodification of children and is therefore usually used pejoratively to signal opposition to such use of reprogenetics.




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Do they really think that Trust babies will shop more and therefore the economy will get better due to supply and demand of goods? Just think what do they buy. Designer clothes, furniture, cars and shoes and maybe trinkets. Most of those things are manufacture abroad. So they will not be improving the unemployment figures. Most designer clothing are produced in Asia. China has most of the car manufacturing (a socialist country). Even toys are produced in China. Cars are from Mexico now. I think Mazdas are produced here but their profits go to their country. And they are not downsizing in employment.
If I get the tax cut I will not see a difference in income. What is 0 a year in a tax break now a days? I hope that bill never passes. I will not starve without it. The wealthy will not starve either. But I think that Republicans are a very dark breed for holding the unemployment benefits hostage. This will impact negatively on them in 2012 and across the earth. And they are hurting people who do not deserve this kind of treatment.
Mr. Obama is between the sword and the wall and I sympathize with him more now than before. He is really thinking of those that are in need at this time.
He is not thinking on his political future and that is maybe why he won the Nobel Prize.




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I can't stop blaming my dad..?




I know its long but please, I need advice

Well I’m a teenager, i have a sister who’s 18, and a baby sister. My mom is a stay at home mom, and my dad works Mon-Fri from 12 P.M to 4 A.M, so that makes it 16 hours. We have an income of about 3000 a month, we’re always arguing about money, we live in a small apartment, its been like this for ten years, I’m so sick of it.
Well we were once the wealthiest of the wealthy, my father and his brothers owned about four Dunkin Donuts stores, he married my mother at a young age.. 18, promising her that she will resume her education after the marriage, but of course he lied. Well up until i was about four we were living in a beautiful rental apartment in a highrise building in NYC.
All that time my dad was a heavy spender, he would spend on luxury furniture, designer clothing, everything, but he would never save up money to buy a house, hell he didn’t need to save up, all he needed to do was go to the bank for a loan, but he didn’t because all his life he made bad decisions and he never thought of his family’s future.
Well the day came when it all ended. my uncle began arguing with the Dunkin Donuts Company and so we had to sell the stores, well of course the four stores made about 1.2 million dollars. My Dad has four brothers, so they were supposed to divide equally, so what happened was the my uncles divided the money evenly and left my dad with nothing, and he said nothing about it, and barely asked for his share even though he’s the one that worked hardest in the business. (The four stores were under my grandfathers name),
Each one of my uncles lives in a huge beautiful house now and we’re stuck in a small apartment. My mother couldn’t resume her education because of my father, therefore we’re on one income, my dad has a bachelors degree in business, but he couldn’t work in it because he has no experience, and he’s now stuck working as a pharmacy technician, with about 3000 a month as I said, with no hope of ever buying a house.
Everty time I look at him I blame him for what he did, and what he didn’t do (ask for his share and fight for it, and go and buy a house while all the money was pouring in, the heavy spending and the lack of saving)
And now I’m stuck in a small apartment two siblings and two parents, cramped and small, I never lived a life where i could be proud of my own house and play in the backyard and invite friends over. All because of him, all my other friends have a house, a feeling of safety of stability, not the feeling of the landlord can kick you out any second.
What would you do in my situation? How would you feel? Please no mean answers, put yourself in my situation, we didn’t start out like this, but my dad’s poor decisions got us here, my die a million times when I see my cousins living in OUR money and my dad acts like nothing ever happened even thou they robbed him, and ruined his credit




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Geeze. I know its great and all that they want to work, but come on! The economy is crap right now and I have friends in their 20′s and 30′s who are being laid off because their companies are going under. I am so sick and tired of these little 14 and 15 year old kids or other teenagers for that matter asking how they can work! Ok, for one, check answers first. this question has been asked 1948340983597839 times! And two, if you are under 16 in most places you are TOO YOUNG for the most part. For every other teenager who is crying that they cant get a job at hollister or banana republic go cry somewhere else! there are people out there with babies to feed and mortgages to pay who are not at home with their mommy and daddy providing for them who are having HUGE troubles right now because their company is going out of business. Not because thye cant buy the latest designer clothing.
Ugh, I know this a rant, but come on! Some people come on here to ask and lookfor real advice, not for this kind of crap!




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Do they really think they’re rational and cool? I guess Maci isn’t so bad.
Why would you flip out and disrespect the people that are supporting your illegitimate baby?
Is it probably scripted?
What do you think about the girls, babies, and guys?
I feel so bad for Gary, idk why he keeps chasing that horrible girl. I would punch her in the face if she treated me like that all the time!
I think Farrah needs a nice kick to the crotch. She wore designer clothing, and full makeup to give birth! And flips out on EVERYONE for EVERYTHING.
I do think that catelynn made the right choice in adoption.




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Should I be offended by what my sister said?




Okay, my mom and I get along very well, and today I was having a conversation with her. My sister was there because she came home to visit for a couple hours. Anyways, I am currently 27 weeks pregnant, and I love designers. I want to buy my baby designer clothing, because I do not think it’s right to buy myself all these nice clothes and then go buy my baby’s clothes at walmart. I bought a lot of her clothes at marshall’s, because I know she’s going to grow extremely fast and I don’t want to overpay. Anyways, i’m graduating from high school in August, and my parents are going to give me money for my graduation present. Once I told my mom that I wanted a gucci diaper bag, my sister started screaming and freaking out. She told me that I need to start thinking about my baby, that I am being naive, and I need to grow up. Then she said I need to go into a mental hospital, and that I am just like my mom. (my mom is bipolar, and a paranoid scizofrenic). I didn’t know what to say to that, especially because my sister is the one who is very emotionally unstable and has been showing all of the symptoms that my mom showed when she would start acting up. Then, she finally stopped yelling at me once my cousin called her. As soon as she called, she went into the garage to talk about me, she though I couldn’t hear her, but I heard her clearly. She started saying how I wanted a gucci diaper bag, and then I heard my sister say "Omg, that’s mean!", then she said "Yeah, I told her she needs to go into a mental hospital." Before I got pregnant, I had a problem of always letting what everyone says get to me; and I honestly thought I got over that, but this really got on my nerves. My cousin and I don’t get along very well, although we used to be best friends. She would get pissed every time my parents would buy me something expensive. She told me that since I wear designers I have to values or morals. Although I know that doesn’t make any sense, I still feel so stupid for wanting to prove her wrong so badly. Anyways, I do very well in school, I have a 4.0 gpa, plan on going to college right after high school, and I think I deserve to buy what I want with my graduation money, I deserve it. It’s not like I am taking anything away from my baby, it’s simply a graduation gift. Anyways, i’m just wondering, why do I feel so upset about my sister’s and cousin’s words?




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Okay, my mom and I get along very well, and today I was having a conversation with her. My sister was there because she came home to visit for a couple hours. Anyways, I am currently 27 weeks pregnant, and I love designers. I want to buy my baby designer clothing, because I do not think it’s right to buy myself all these nice clothes and then go buy my baby’s clothes at walmart. I bought a lot of her clothes at marshall’s, because I know she’s going to grow extremely fast and I don’t want to overpay. Anyways, i’m graduating from high school in August, and my parents are going to give me money for my graduation present. Once I told my mom that I wanted a gucci diaper bag, my sister started screaming and freaking out. She told me that I need to start thinking about my baby, that I am being naive, and I need to grow up. Then she said I need to go into a mental hospital, and that I am just like my mom. (my mom is bipolar, and a paranoid scizofrenic). I didn’t know what to say to that, especially because my sister is the one who is very emotionally unstable and has been showing all of the symptoms that my mom showed when she would start acting up. Then, she finally stopped yelling at me once my cousin called her. As soon as she called, she went into the garage to talk about me, she though I couldn’t hear her, but I heard her clearly. She started saying how I wanted a gucci diaper bag, and then I heard my sister say "Omg, that’s mean!", then she said "Yeah, I told her she needs to go into a mental hospital." Before I got pregnant, I had a problem of always letting what everyone says get to me; and I honestly thought I got over that, but this really got on my nerves. My cousin and I don’t get along very well, although we used to be best friends. She would get pissed every time my parents would buy me something expensive. She told me that since I wear designers I have to values or morals. Although I know that doesn’t make any sense, I still feel so stupid for wanting to prove her wrong so badly. Anyways, I do very well in school, I have a 4.0 gpa, plan on going to college right after high school, and I think I deserve to buy what I want with my graduation money, I deserve it. It’s not like I am taking anything away from my baby, it’s simply a graduation gift. Anyways, i’m just wondering, why do I feel so upset about my sister’s and cousin’s words?




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What are the Rules and Reminders of Parenting?




What should every parents remember to do? Make sure their child eats their dinner? Make sure they buckle up in the car? Should you buy children designer clothing when their young or just wait until they ask for it? How do you make sure they don’t get spoiled? questions and answers in that genre. Please, if you can start from when they’re babies until they’re young adults. Thanks!




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