Thursday, July 29th, 2010 at
8:28 pm
I’m 28 and I have a 14 year old son.
RJ is his nickname so I’ll use that. He’s not my biological son. He is actually my son to be nephew.
The situation is that his brother who is my fiancé found out his mother had turned to heroine and was leaving RJ at home for days without telling him where she was. When my fiancé found out he tried to get her help but she died before he could get her that help.
That was 9 1/2 months ago. Then he moved in with us because my fiancé has a good paying job and I have a stable income job. And we/i wanted him to come live with us because I’ve know him since he was a baby.
Since he has moved in he’s been the model 14 year old. He’s like the exception to what you would think a teenager would be like. And we have/had a really close relationship we were almost bonded to the hip. We communicate well.
But here’s the problem I want to say 3 months ago maybe less it was a Saturday and he was supposed to be out with a friend and thinking that I took a shower got out and I walked down stairs naked and there he was in the kitchen and he just stared at me until I ran up stairs and put some clothes on. I talk to later that day and we seemed ok.
But since then he distant toward me and I am a calculus teacher and he is one of my students and his grade in my class has dropped from a A to a C. now he keeps his head down in my class. So I talked to him and he told me having trouble focusing and that he was trying to avoid looking at me. He said he gets "feelings" every time he looks at me.
I don’t know what to say do about this. He’s turned on by me and his grades are slipping in my class. What should I do?
Also, another question that’s been concerning me. He’s 14 but he’s at a junior/senior level in school has a 4.24 gpa and is on pace to graduate next year before the first semester ends. And that bothering me and my fiancé. I/we think he should go through high like a normal kid. So he be what he is a kid. I’m not ready to see him go to college next year and he’s 14 he should be a freshmen.
What do you think should hold him back? And also what do you think of the situation above?
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