I am 19 and 4 months pregnant. I recently found out in a 4D scan that I am having a baby girl.
I am studying to be a solicitor and my fiancé Matthew is 21 and is a teacher. We have been together 6 years and recently got engaged. We have a lovely house and love each other so much.
However the baby is not Matt’s. The baby is the result of me sleeping with a guy Adam while me and Matt briefly split up. We used protection but it split. Me and Matt got back together 2 weeks later. Adam is 29 and unfortunately I did not know that he is married and has two sons aged 8 and 7. He is wealthy and although he and his wife are not properly together they are still married and money is soooooo important to him. He’s wealthy, has his own businesses and flaunts his cash. He’s contacting me looking to know about the baby and begging me to keep quiet. He wants to keep me quiet with money and presents! He hasn’t told his wife and doesn’t plan on. He is really happy and excited about our baby girl but wants her to be a secret. How is this possible? Everyone thinks the baby is Matt’s even my parents and Matt’s parents!
Adam is ringing me constantly. I want to change my number. He’s calling to my house. I want to move. He wants to go to scans. I don’t want him there. I want Matt. I want Matt at the birth. Not Adam. I want Matt’s name on the birth certificate. Not Adam’s. Can I do any of these? Can I put Matt’s name as the father or would I have to put no father’s name on the birth certificate instead of Adam’s?
Sure thing is that my baby won’t have Adam’s surname. Adam doesn’t want to tell his wife about his daughter but expects that he can get what he wants! He has even got his friend to buy our baby LOTS of pink clothes and has planned an interior designer to decorate a nursery for her in my house! I’m glad that he’s enthusiastic but he’s dominating. Adam and Matt dislike each other and none of my family like Adam. I have lost weight and Adam shouted at me saying I am not eating! Before I became pregnant I was a US size 0 / UK size 4 but have went up to a US 2/4 or UK 6/8 depending on types of clothes. Adam said I dress slutty and look like a blonde playboy bimbo whore! He makes me sad and I cry but I know if I tell Matt then he would go crazy at Adam and that would cause more difficulties.
Matt is 100% supportive and wants the baby to be his. Adam is causing major problems. There IS 3 people in our relationship and 1 baby. LOTS of people are advising me to have an abortion even though I am 16 weeks! But apparently if I act quickly it will all be alright. Someone even said "Think of your baby as one of your stupid blonde moments!" Matt & Adam want the baby but people are harassing me about an abortion…and I feel sick thinking about them wanting me to kill my little girl.
What do you think about these people? Should I listen to them? What should I do about Adam & Matt?
Matt KNOWS the baby IS NOT his…But he is acting like it IS his
I don’t want to lie to people…but Adam won’t let me tell the truth because IT WILL cause more problems.. such as his divorce, his business will lose money etc. That is why he doesn’t want the truth to be told and if I tell it he WON’T talk to me again
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