I am the mother of two children of my own and a stepdaughter who i do everything for and really love her as my own, her mother is a deadbeat who she hasnt lived with since she was 2 and the daughter has lived with me and my fiance (her father) for almost the past 3 years, she mother is a mother when its convenient for her.. I have accepted this child because of my own life experience as an orphan and being treated very differently from the woman who raised me children, and for that I never would want to treat a child in my household different.
well now her mother has decided that I should not be able to do her daughters hair, take her to school, or dress her in the morning, my fiance said ok, came home to me and told me either his mother or the childs mother will be taking her to school from now on, his mother or his sister will do her hair, like what kind of nonsense is that? I asked him so I can bathe her, feed her, clothe her, pay for her trips at school, etc etc, but if i have to take her out and you are not with me and we see her mother in the street what am i supposed to do? obviously the answer is run the other way
so i told him if she can have so much influence as to change the day to day routine of our household there is no point in me doing anything for this child period, she should not have the authority to pick and choose she isn’t even a full time mother .. and she always tries to swing her power around and he lets her every time, he never went and filed for custody because every time he did the mother would cry and he would feel guilty and dismiss or throw out the court papers,
now because i bitched and moaned about it, he calls the mother back to tell her she cant dictate what happens in our house.. how wishy washy does he look?? and what happened that he didnt feel that way when she said it instead of just folding? i am sooo sick of being second to the childs mother when i am the one who does everything for the child.. and i told him if thats the case and she is going to be able to have influence over what happens in my house where i pay all the bills then maybe we need to rethink the making of this "family"
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