My mom is a hoarder!!! help!?
Ok so my mom is a hoarder and it is driving me crazy!!!!! She buys things she never uses, things she doesnt need more of etc.
her room is like a mountain of clothes and other crap
she buys me things i dont want then gets mad when i want to get rid of them and expects me to keep them in my room when she wants them not me
i cant even have friends over i have to make up excuses because our house is so clutters with random papers and stuff that my mom wants to keep
she even keeps hair from her kids haircuts and teeth that we lost- its disgusting!!! today i asked her to throw it away and she just put it in this little glass thing and said, "there, its gone!" i was like wow you didnt even throw it away and shes like "what? im a hoarder"
our dining room table clutters you can barely see it!!
we also had to take stuff from my grandma’s house when she came to live with us after her car accident. so now we have like double the stuff. and my grandma’s disabled so my parents have to take care of her 24/7 take her to the bathroom, feed her, give her her medications, put her to bed, and someone has to watch her like a baby because she can get up but cant balance so she would fall and break something (she already broke her neck) and she wont take her to a nursing home because she would get so weak there and probably die or fall out of a chair and break a hip or something
i cant live like this anymore!!!!! why cant she be normal!? shows like hoarder;s completely freak me out. im like the opposite of her im a neat freak my room has to be perfect and i keep trying to get rid of things i dont want and dont use "mostly things she got me" and she gets all pissed. and i try throwing away little stuff thats pretty much crap and broken and she gets mad at me so i have to do it behind her back, because once its gone she doesnt even notice!
my dad and brothers are neat people too.
we’re trying to clean and my mom’s helping and were donating stuff but she always gets in the way and wants to keep pointless stuff.
when going through my clothes she makes me keep clothes that ive never even worn (stuff she bought) so i have to stuff them in the back of my closet until ive outgrown them so she’ll let me get rid of them.
anyways, i hate this!!!! i hate living in this house i just wish we could move and start over!! my mom always wonders why im always in my room when im home and its because every other room is messy!!
i need advice, dont tell me to get her proffesional help she would never do it. i’m pretty much just venting and i need your advice we’re already starting to clean but i dont know if we’ll ever finish!
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It is okay to vent. You must be very frustrated. But, until one of you is prepared to get help, because it is your environment too, things will not be easier. You cannot fight this battle alone. You can move out, eventually but for now, you need outside support. It is a mental disorder. It is treatable, but takes time and a professional who knows about the disorder. There are also professional organizers who specialize in this, besides psychologists.
Sorry for your pain. Good Luck. Stay strong.
My mom was a hoarder too up until she passed away a few years ago. Do you have any siblings? Does your mom ever leave for days at a time? I would suggest if she ever leaves to get a dumpster and you and whatever people can muster up, just start dumping stuff. Be careful of anything that has real value. Everything else, just dump. If she never gets psychological help, she will never change, but at least you can start clearing the area a bit. Having that much crap around really prevents people from thinking clearly. I feel your pain. Good luck