how rude would it be to put in a childs 1st bday invitation a wishlist or suggestions such as gift certificate?
Wednesday, May 12th, 2010 at
10:40 am
he got so much during the few babyshowers that were given to me, he has clothes up to 2T and toys for a 1 yrs old, if people would include their receipts that would even be good cause then if it is doubled i could just return, but alot of people dont! So HELP!
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Actually, if you got SO much stuff already that you have stuff for him up to 2 years old, then either say "No Gifts Please," or, "In Lieu Of Gifts, Please Make A Donation to [Your Favorite Charity]," or, just let folks bring whatever they want and then, afterwards, do the right thing and donate all the doubles and extras to a homeless shelter or battered women’s shelter, because it sounds like you don’t need it, so pay it forward!!
My kids weren’t able to appreciate a Bday until they were older than one. The Bday for a one year old is kind of silly. I always celebrated it with a cake and a couple presents and family. Why don’t you put invitations out that say, come celebrate but don’t bring a gift? Not sure why you expect gifts at this point, especially if everyone was so generous to you already.
It would be very rude and very tacky.
Tacky & rude
I was always taught that it is better to give than to expect. I think that if you put in a wish list then you are expecting gifts and many would think this is rude.
You can ask them to get gift receipts to return duplicate items.
There is no way you can include any mention of a gift on the invitation without committing an etiquette crime, because nobody is obligated to bring a gift to the party. An invitation is just that: a request that someone joint you and your family for a celebration. The pleasure of their company is the only thing you can ask for.
If the people you are inviting are truly concerned with getting your child something that would be appreciated, they will call you and ask for suggestions.
Other than that, the only polite thing you can do is express thanks for the gifts your little one is given, both verbally if they are opened at the party and in writing later on.
Come have cake and ice cream with us to celebrate Betty Ann’s first birthday! She’s much too young to appreciate gifts, so just come and enjoy the day!
Day and Time:
Our Address:
Our Telephone:
- – - – - – - – - – - -
Otherwise, throwing a birthday party for a one-year-old infant would just be seen as blatant greedy begging for gifts on your part. Limit your guest list to fond relatives. Some people will be generous and bring along a little toy or a gift card, but you shouldn’t expect it.
You are asking for help in the Etiquette category: You may never mention gifts at all on an invitation. Period.
Even "no gifts please" is not acceptable, but FAR BETTER than suggesting what you want them to give.
Most people would assume that you know people well whom you’d invite to a One Year Old Party! It actually is an adult get-together as the kid certainly will have little concept of what is going on. I think most people do have receipts if you ask them. Or re-gift.
It’s very bad form to ask for gifts.