Help! Problem with my mom? What do I say to her?
I’m 14 and my sister is 9. My mom won’t buy us new clothes, so we have to share them. She wears a bigger size than I do and the clothes just fall off of me. I look like a boy because the clothes are so baggy and I got in trouble at school for "inappropriately sized clothing". My mom buys new clothes for herself ALL THE TIME and it’s usually designer and overpriced, yet she won’t buy some clothes for me. I’m too young to work a real job and we don’t know any families who need a baby sitter, pet sitter, etc. I’ve tried everything. Even if I did have money, I wouldn’t have a ride to go somewhere to buy new clothes. What can I say to my mom? I’m so worried that she’s going to yell at me and I need a good game plan.
I don’t have a dad.
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Just say that you need to talk to her about something, and say that you and your sister are different sizes, and you would like a few things of your own so that they are not too large for you. If this is actually a serious question and nothing you do will get your mom to get you some new clothes, then talk to the guidance counselor at school because he/she may be able to help in some way because not providing your children with the things they need is neglect, which is a form of child abuse.
Good luck!
You need to tell her how u feel in a very cool and calm tone. Don’t raise your voice at any time during the conversation. Even compliment her on her style (even if you don’t like it). You can say things like that you look up to her and so on. No offense, but some kids want everything and don’t deserve it, I hope your not that kind.
Start doing things around the house without being told to do so, or offer to help when she is doing them. Things slowly can change. From the way you speak, I don’t know if you have your dad in your life, but you can always ask him too and tell him how you feel. If nothing works, talk to a school counselor, that will get your moms attention.
First thing id do is wait till shes not in a bad mood. then sit her down and tell her "Mom, I have a serious problem and it’s really affecting my school work and personal life. My Clothes dont fit right. Im getting in trouble in school for it and its really putting a stress on me. Is there any way we can work something out where we can go to wal mart or the mall and get me some out fits that will mix and match easily? that way we dont have to get that much and I can have somethig that fits right? Im not asking for desinger. Im just asking for the right size. Then maybe we can work out a plan for me to do some chores or some things extra for you to work it off? Im not asking for a free ride, I just need some help with this till im old enough to get my own job and then you dont have to worry about it.
Thats how id go with it myself. I admire that youre trying to go and get your own things but its hard for kids. Hope that helped you. Good luck!!
just talk to her be like mom, the Other day i got in trouble at school… the yelled at me for inappropriate sized clothes. i would really like to get a few new t-shirts && pants. don’t raise your voice or start crying, just keep a steady voice an talk it through even if your mom gets mad, you could also talk to your dad about it if you want =D
some good places to get clothes would be walmart, target, or kmart
some of their stuff is really good quality
Wow, I think you need to talk to her. You’ve gotten good advice and definitely bring up the fact that the school told you that you were dressed inappropriately.
A nine and 14 year old can’t share clothes. Ask if there are things you can do around the house to earn extra money to buy a few new items. Is she that unreasonable? How about your Dad, can you ask him for help?
Here are a couple of ideas.
Wait until she’s in a particularly good mood, and then approach her CALMLY. Do not lose you temper if things aren’t going your way.
Tell her that the clothes she’s been making you wear lately have been affecting your social, and school life. Tell her it’s been effecting you in negative ways and that you have been getting in trouble for baggy clothing.ell her you love her style of clothing, and it’s really cool that she doesn’t dress like a cat lady, but in order for a healthy social development you need proper clothing.
If that doesn’t work, ask your friends if they have any clothes that don’t fit them anymore.
Or, you could take the big shirts, pull on it from the end, make it tightfitting, and then tie it with a rubber band. Then take the little ponytail sort of thing that hangs out from the back and tuck it underneath the shirt or into your back pant pocket. That works really well too. You could also learn how to sew and resew the clothes to fit you.
Take them to a tailor, and ask him or her to resew them for you.
And if nothign works,
tell your mom you’ll call DYFS on her a*s for neglect if she doesn’t take you to the mall.
try talking to her yourself abut it and explain about the problems your having in school. if that doesnt work, tell a teacher at schools whats going on. it seems like your mom has problems with shopping