I can't stop blaming my dad..?
I know its long but please, I need advice
Well I’m a teenager, i have a sister who’s 18, and a baby sister. My mom is a stay at home mom, and my dad works Mon-Fri from 12 P.M to 4 A.M, so that makes it 16 hours. We have an income of about 3000 a month, we’re always arguing about money, we live in a small apartment, its been like this for ten years, I’m so sick of it.
Well we were once the wealthiest of the wealthy, my father and his brothers owned about four Dunkin Donuts stores, he married my mother at a young age.. 18, promising her that she will resume her education after the marriage, but of course he lied. Well up until i was about four we were living in a beautiful rental apartment in a highrise building in NYC.
All that time my dad was a heavy spender, he would spend on luxury furniture, designer clothing, everything, but he would never save up money to buy a house, hell he didn’t need to save up, all he needed to do was go to the bank for a loan, but he didn’t because all his life he made bad decisions and he never thought of his family’s future.
Well the day came when it all ended. my uncle began arguing with the Dunkin Donuts Company and so we had to sell the stores, well of course the four stores made about 1.2 million dollars. My Dad has four brothers, so they were supposed to divide equally, so what happened was the my uncles divided the money evenly and left my dad with nothing, and he said nothing about it, and barely asked for his share even though he’s the one that worked hardest in the business. (The four stores were under my grandfathers name),
Each one of my uncles lives in a huge beautiful house now and we’re stuck in a small apartment. My mother couldn’t resume her education because of my father, therefore we’re on one income, my dad has a bachelors degree in business, but he couldn’t work in it because he has no experience, and he’s now stuck working as a pharmacy technician, with about 3000 a month as I said, with no hope of ever buying a house.
Everty time I look at him I blame him for what he did, and what he didn’t do (ask for his share and fight for it, and go and buy a house while all the money was pouring in, the heavy spending and the lack of saving)
And now I’m stuck in a small apartment two siblings and two parents, cramped and small, I never lived a life where i could be proud of my own house and play in the backyard and invite friends over. All because of him, all my other friends have a house, a feeling of safety of stability, not the feeling of the landlord can kick you out any second.
What would you do in my situation? How would you feel? Please no mean answers, put yourself in my situation, we didn’t start out like this, but my dad’s poor decisions got us here, my die a million times when I see my cousins living in OUR money and my dad acts like nothing ever happened even thou they robbed him, and ruined his credit
and im rly bored. SO WHAT IS YOUR ADVICE?