Baby Showers?
Wednesday, August 4th, 2010 at
6:00 am
Is it appropriatte for the father of the baby to be at the baby shower with me? I know it use to be custom that only women were allowed at baby showers but obviously it isn’t like that any more. I was just wondering since my boyfriend wants to be there to open presents but I like following traditions like that.
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My baby shower had both male and female guests. It really did make for a better time because it was SOOO funny to watch the guys do some of the traditional baby games like the dirty diaper game and the timed baby changing game done with a doll. It really allowed my husband to be a part of the whole process.
it is really up to you! My husband will be at mine as well as some of my male friends, its not written in stone on who who invite and dont invite to your shower its totally up to you and whom ever throws it
We had a family baby shower. Men Women and children invited. My husband was also there and we opened gifts together. It was great! I am not a games kind of person, so it was more of a family and friends get together and was really a nice time.
Have fun, it’s great he wants to be there!
If you want him to be there let your family and friends know that it’s going to be a couples baby shower , your young and this is a tradition you want to start if not simply tell him no , although you may hurt his feelings .
Nothing wrong with him being there, I think they should be present and everyone would enjoy it too
It is not really appropriate for you or the baby’s father to give you a shower. Have him ask his mother or someone else to give you a jack & jill shower… Even if it is not Jack & Jill he can still go, my husband was the only guy at mine and it was fine!
my husband came to mine. he was a little uncomfortable though, he was the only man there! you might want to mention to your hostess that he would like to come and see if she would encourage some other ladies to bring their significant other. it’s becoming more common to have mixed showers, dads want to have some of the fun too!
This is a case where you need to ask the hostess, and ask a couple of people who are coming if that would make them uncomfortable. It seems that he would be very uncomfortable. My husband would die b4 he would go and listen to all that female talk. Ask him if he would enjoy it if he has to listen about c sections, boobs, bleeding, labor, breast feeding, etc.. That is what women like to talk about during a shower.
We had a family baby shower. It was wonderful. It’s your baby together so what’s wrong with celebrating together? Have fun.
Mostly it depends on the crowd invited to your shower. If you are expecting females only, use your best judgement about your guy being there. Honestly, my hubby would steer clear of a traditional (all female) baby shower. That being said, you are absolutely right about most showers being not so traditional. You may consider having a couples shower so that guys are invited too. THat would give your guy some male friends to visit with. But, if that is not an option, just do what feels best. If he wants to be there, by all means- it’s his baby too! Be sure to let your hostesses know in advance. They could use him for some fun games I’m sure!!
It’s common now formento be there. However, steering clear of the goofy games is recommended. We just had a buffet and a lot of good friends/family. A radio and maybe a couple attendance prizes is all you need. makes it easier on those throwing the shower too. They have to make a note on the invite that it’s not a traditional shower or the other guys will think twice before coming.
i went to my wife’s shower and my coworker threw one also. They are jack and Jill showers where there are men and women. This is a fun game for the men. get some cheap baby bottles with stage one nipples and have them race to see you can empty it first. That gets the guys involved
my husband showed up half way threw the shower, just to see everyone, and to see some of the gifts we got. if he wants to go then u should let him. its nice to have someone that enjoys all of that too..
it’s not very common, but it’s absolutely appropriate if he wants to join, I think it’s cool, I don’t see why the father usually isn’t there and it’s more like a girls thing, thats jsut me tho
It’s up to you. I enjoyed having my boyfriend at mine because he bbq’d for me since I was craving bbq chicken. Also, it was nice having him there to open presents with me, since after all, the presents aren’t for you, they’re for the baby that both of you created.
That is up to you. If you want him to be there then that would be fine. Remember to invite some of his friends. And if you play any games make sure that there games that both sexes can play.
Hope this helps.
Good Luck
Yes, let him participate, at least in one of the showers. Invite both men and women to the shower. The men may not be too crazy about the typical baby shower games (a lot of women aren’t either), so maybe you can think of some different types of games, or forget them altogether.