Are Expectant Fathers Expected To Attend Baby Showers?
Thursday, July 29th, 2010 at
1:13 am
my wife and i are expecting our first child in september and we we’re discussing the baby shower and i said i didn’t think that men attended she’s not sure so i figured i’d ask and see what people said.
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Expectant fathers aren’t expected to attend unless the shower is being thrown for both you and your wife. If she wants you to be there, then I’m sure it’s fine. It is your baby after all! If you would like to have a part in collecting necessary items for your child, you could have a guys shower where you have food and drink (most of the time beer)..and all of the guys that come are to bring a pack of diapers in exchange for the food and drink. Things are definitely different these days though and I see nothing wrong with you attending if you have permission by the hostess!
Not usually…But nowadays anything is possible
Not generally, unless it’s a coed shower, and most men do not want to go to a baby shower. My husband was the one who got me to my shower (it was a surprise) and he just ended up staying for the food and to videotape the opening of the gifts.
Not unless it’s a jack & jill shower. Otherwise he can show up at the end to load up all of the gifts and thank the guests.
Generally no. I had three showers…One my MIL had and it was more a "get together" FOR my husband and less of a shower for me…so he did attend.
The other two "traditional" ones were all women. A husband/boyfriend/significant other wouldn’t be "unwelcome" – but they may feel a little out of place.
Well these days people have this idea that that men want to attend the baby shower but I don’t know any guy who wants to attend one!
Guys did not attend mine, my hubby came at the end to bring the gifts home.
Well baby showers are supposed to be for women only… but it’s okay to bend the rules every now and then… I only invited women to my shower, and for some strange reason there were men there too, by the time I got there and saw all of the men there I called my fiance and had him come too!
Not for a traditional shower – but people are doing all sorts of things these days.
But under no circumstance should the expectant father be the only male present. Either you invite men or you don’t.
If it’s a co-ed one, you should go. baby showers are a lot of fun. We had a co-ed one.
No, but they are expected to capitalize and punctuate.
We used my baby shower as a family get together also. We all live about 4-5 hrs away in various directions.
So I had aunts, uncles, male cousins, female cousins, and father to be there.
It was quite enjoyable. When the baby shower part rolled around, the guys just sat in the kitchen… or did their thing outside.
It’s like they naturally escape it.
More often than not no they do not attend. However, if your wife asks you to come you should. Sometimes they do throw a co-ed shower. I just showed the goodies to my bf when I got home
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Not normally, but you could go modern and have men attend.. I don’t don’t see why they shouldn’t. The gifts are also going to be used by the father. Plus, if men attend, more presents! I think when it comes to that time for me to start planning mine, I will have men attend.
it’s not tradition for a man to attend a baby shower. its more of a time for women to be giddy about a new baby and play silly games
my husband, father, brother and my son’s godfather all attended my baby shower, they turned out to be a huge help…so I say there’s absolutely no reason why men can’t attend.
thats up 2 u, my mom threw me one and said he wasnt allowed 2 come- women ONLY!!! his family threw one for me and anyone and everyone came. just depends if your traditional or not i suppose.
Not traditionally, but if you want to, by all means go ahead.
not usually. Mine never attended either of my baby showers
they don’t have to but it would be nice for him to go cause that is his child.
uhh. that’s a good question, my husband didn’t but a lot of my friend’s husbands did.
I had a co-ed shower, as all of our friends were fire fighters with my husband so we invited the boys and girls. And one of the "shower games" was just for the boys. They had a baby doll and had to put a diaper on it! The fastest one WON!! Ha ha it was great!
Seriously, belinda 2, you want to worry about his grammar and not about his question. Get over yourself, grammar nazi. He’s asking a question, it’s in the internet, who cares if he is using proper grammar.
Not traditionally, but a lot of dads go nowadays even if it’s girls only otherwise. Ask the person hosting what they’d like.
its usually just for the mom
but my husband was there
he stayed in the basement watching football
until it was time for presents lol.
i guess its really up to the guest of honor!
It’s co-ed nowadays! My shower, we only invited women but they bought their significant others too! My dad, my FIL, his grandfather, and my boyfriend were all there! It’s not like its just "my baby", my boyfriend had part in creating this baby too. The presents are presented to us as a family. And it doesn’t hurt to have some beer there for the boys and champagne for the girls!
I had 2 showers for my baby, one for my family and one for hubbys because our family’s live about an hour apart. Hubby attended both of them. The little old women love him =) He actually had a lot of fun. If I were you, i would go. I bet you’ll have fun too. At least there is food! =)
no usually fathers don’t attend but however there is nothing wrong with it if they do hey it could be a co-ed babyshower invite your friends too do something different and remember just because your wife is carring the baby doesn’t mean you aren’t exspecting a child it takes two and will for the next 21 years of the childs life so be there from the beginning to the end and have fun.
my baby shower was coed.
hispanics have always had coed baby showers
but now its like most people have them in my family we make it like a normal party food drinks dancing the only difference between the baby shower and a normal party is we play games like racing to feed each other baby food blind folded,who can drink the beer faster from the baby bottle (of course the mom to be does not play this one) and at the end of the party we open the presents
i believe both parents are expecting a baby so both should attend the baby shower